02 Mar 17

Can a person with bipolar disorder lead a happy, married life?

My husband has bipolar disorder with personality traits as C. We have been married now for two and a half years. I have known him since 8 years, he informed me about his illness before marriage. But, then I didn't give it a serious thought. Now, we hardly spend any day without quarrels...he makes fuss almost about it clothes...his clothes..anything....his choices and interests change almost daily.

Recently, I read other questions on Quora about having bipolar family members...most of them had horrible experiences living with bipolar partners. I am really scared and depressed now thinking about my future. Things have just degraded between us over the time...firstly he used to call me bad names...but in past he has also hit me( it was very rarer..and in series of arguments when I was also agitated). In general..when not depressed or irritated...he is very sweet and caring person. I know he really loves me a lot....I too love him very much. My head spins if I imagine my future without him.But, right now my future seems so doomed to I have any chance of a happy relationship with him?

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